Womenhood vs Motherhood
Updated: Mar 7
As a mum myself, I know firsthand how easy it is to get caught up in the daily grind of being a parent and forget that I am still a woman with my own unique needs and desires. So, let's take a minute to explore what it means to embrace our femininity and womanhood while also doing our bloody best being a mum!
First of all, let's establish the fact that being a mother does not define us as women. Yes, we are mothers and that is an incredible part of who we are, but we are also so much more. We are complex beings with a wide range of interests, passions, and desires. It's important to remember this and to allow ourselves the space to explore these other facets of our identity.
One of the things that often gets pushed to the wayside when we become mothers is our femininity. We can become so focused on the needs of our children that we forget about our own needs and desires. But here's the thing - it's okay to embrace our femininity as mothers. In fact, it's important that we do so! Our femininity is a part of who we are as women, and it can help us to feel more connected to ourselves and our partners.
So, how can we embrace our femininity as mothers? Well, first of all, it's important to prioritize self-care. Make time for yourself each day to do something that makes you feel good. This could be anything from taking a long bath to going for a run to reading a good book. Whatever it is, make sure it's something that nourishes your soul and helps you to feel more connected to yourself, allowing your sense of self to remain strong.
One of my favourite ways to embrace femininity is through how I dress. As the weather begins to change I am committed to wearing dresses as much as possible, floaty, flouncy, frilly, silky, anything goes, so long as I feel amazing in it. Feeling amazing in it is not just about the ascetics, think about the texture of the fabric on your skin, how it moves as you walk and what colour it is. There can often be so much in our wardrobes that do not see the light of day. Let your dresses fufill their destiny!
Another way to embrace your femininity as a mother is to connect with other women who are also on this journey. Sisterhood is so important, and having a support network of other women who understand what you're going through can make all the difference. Whether it's joining a local mom's group or attending a women's retreat, finding your tribe is key.
Speaking of support, let's talk about the importance of having a support village as a mother. This is something that I cannot stress enough. Being a parent is hard work, and trying to do it all on your own is a recipe for burnout. We need other people in our lives who can support us - whether that's a partner, family member, friend, or hired help. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it, and don't feel guilty about taking time for yourself.
Now, let's circle back to the idea of womanhood vs. motherhood. It's important to remember that these two things are not the same. Yes, they are both important parts of who we are, but they are not interchangeable. It's okay to want to embrace your femininity as a woman, even if that doesn't always align with traditional ideas of what it means to be a mother.
So, let's celebrate ourselves as women, and let's celebrate our fellow mums as women too.
Let's unite in sisterhood and support each other as we navigate the sometimes bumpy road of motherhood.
Let's prioritize self-care, embrace our femininity, and seek out our support village.
Because when we do all of these things, we are not only better mums, but we are better women too.
Let's remember that being a mother is just one part of who we are as women.We are strong, capable, and beautiful in our own unique ways, and we deserve to be celebrated!